Dating tips for a 49 yr old woman who is about to divorce.?

i only had 3 boyfriends in my life because i am not the dating type. it scares the heck out of me. all the men i dated chased me to no end and i was engaged to each of them. the last one hunted me down and was so into marring me. he claims that when he first saw me my feet did not touch the ground. i actually floated by his eyes and he knew i was the one. eventually we married. after about 20 years, he decided he wanted other women so i left him. now that i am about to divorce him, i am tying up loose ends. when i am done, i want to look presentable to men. i am thinking of changing my hair and all sorts of things. problem is that i don't want to date. i am scared to death still. i really never learned what to do. these days i will not be so beautiful that men want to chase me down. my personality has to do the work. i am shy. but i am serious about trying to get to know someone. i would never have dreamed of such a thing, but a woman who claims to see the future said that i would have a kind hearted man next year and i would meet him at work. that means that i would have finished school and would have a new career. i am excited about that. the bottom line is that i want to be prepared beyond trying to look and smell nice. i want to know the rules of dating. where do you go. what do you do? i won't have sex till later or till i am engaged or married. i suppose that cuts out a lot of looky loos. what do you think i should do?Dating tips for a 49 yr old woman who is about to divorce.?
First off be proud that you didnt stay with the man that cheated on you. Life is to short to be treated that way.





I think you should go out and change your hair, buy some new clothes. But do it for yourself. For the new you. Even if you splurge and go to one of those expensive salons and tell them to do what they want. You will be amazed at how much better you feel with a new hair cut and new clothes.





As for dating, take it slow. Usually the right man will come along when you least expect it, when you're not looking for it. A lot of churches offer singles nights or have singles groups and activities. Even some communities offer such groups. Of course the internet offers a ton of dating sites like match.com or eharmony.com. These do cost money but it gives you a way to communicate with someone through e-mail and get to know them and what they expect before you meet them in person. Just be up front with a man and let him know exactly what you expect. Also, go out with friends and have fun! Get back to being you again. 20 years is a long time with someone. You need some time to find yourself again. Dont worry about never finding someone, try not to get frustrated. Good things come to those who wait.





Good luck!! Dating tips for a 49 yr old woman who is about to divorce.?
if you date a decent man and there are some out there sex is not the most important and if he respects you he will wait and wait until you are ready -- take your time and don't rush it appears you are a kind and lovely lady and you will find that special man to spend your life with.
Just relax and have some fun...


Don`t go looking for serious stuff..


Just enjoy being single..have an adventure


Sounds as if you have a lot of flirting to do


Just have a great time and maybe true love will find you soon



Be yourself! You seem like a very likeable person! Dont worry, there are plenty of men out there that would love to have a woman like you!
Why would you want to marry again stay free and just go out and have fun.
Hon.. don't listen to the downers on here. The first thing You have to do is simply concentrate on yourself. Go to a gym. Tone up those muscles... need to lose some weight? Do that.. study fashion trends and decide what style you want in clothes, shoes and such. Look at hair colors... try out something.. Change your makeup.. experiment some with someone you know who knows about that sort of thing. It is exciting to change. Be up... you have a new beginning here and the sky is the limit. Go for the big picture. Have fun while you are doing it. Nothing is more attractive than a strong, confident, happy person. Learn a new hobby or skill. Take on something like helping with a homeless shelter or some such thing. Good luck and enjoy your life... you earned it.
After hearing ur story I'm really shattered. If 20 years union is not enough to live rest of life together I see no reason why anyone should marry at all. I'm not in a position to suggest that u change ur looks so that someone falls for u. At the age of 49, oh no ! U can't have stable relationship with other man. I'm sorry, it's frustrating.
You sound as though you have plenty of personality. And 49 is not old. (I am 44). But I know what you mean. Why not try a dating/marriage minded website (the kind where you pay to be matched up - they are more serious), that's how I met my husband five years ago. This weeds out alot of people for you. A new hairstyle and clothes always do wonders for your self-esteem.
You really should be proud your strong enough to leave a cheater. However why jump right back into another relationship %26amp; your not even divorced yet. Why not give yourself time to enjoy being by yourself, doing what you want. Finish school-change anything you want about yourself, but don't do it for the sake of catching a man. If you don't like yourself the way you are, men won't either. Relationships happen when they are meant to be; don't force it.
Lady your in for a big awaking. I';m 57 male I have meet a lot great woman but baggage that they have makes me run from them. That have kids that can not get along with each other or they have babied the kid so bad and give them ever thing she has. The men out here are not much good nether. Remember they have been dump because booze , cheating, hitters and what ever woman dump men for. So have fun trying finding some one. I have almost given up.
Be yourself but you talk of not having sex till you are engaged or married - forget it, there is no one in that age group that will want to get married. I started dating again aged 45 and the men of that age group do not want marriage, all they want is one night stands or short term relationships for sex. Do not do the singles clubs as they are only pick up joints, try the friendship clubs, they are slightly more respectable, you say you want to look nice etc, the guy don't care they only want a leg over. I did find someone and we have been together for 7 years but he will never marry. Good luck.
Tell you what, break the mould of most British women . Try being nice, modest and charming. Look at yourself. Remember nobody is paid to like you or find you attractive. Therefore you have to make the effort. Be honest with yourself. If you need to lose weight, lose it. Don't fall into the trap a lot of British women fall into, of only doing something for you. No man likes that kind of selfish woman, just as no woman would like that kind of selfish man. If you feel you have lost some looks ( and lets face it most of us have by 49.....I am 55 year old guy and I certainly have !!! ) then develop a sparkling personality and become a good listener. With all that, you should have quality men queuing up for you !! Good luck !!! Oh, and by the way, don't get any tattoos. They suck on men, let alone women !!
Holy mackerel! You build yourself up, you build yourself down.


Even though I do not believe in people that see the future, I could change my mind on this one. Just by ';standing'; in the possibility of finishing school, meeting a kind-hearted man and living a life you love, everything else will fall into place with a few bumps along the way. Cut out the drama.
As an older man myself, I can say there are lots of us thinking a 50ish woman is young and could well be a great partner. Dating is the wrong word for you/us. It is more a matter of what you might like to do together. Don't call it a date....go to a vineyard, museum, play, exhibition, walk, study together (language, kayaking....).... And do look for the right person via your present friends and relations who may have a friend or a relation to suggest, then maybe over a dinner....





Don't overlook the younger man. And do believe you may have to make the first invitation, ';Shall we gto ... art exhibition, play, book fair... I found my present wife when she was early 60's. Neither have ever had it better. Best wishes.