Chinese men>? Dating tips?

Please let me know about dating with Chinese men





I am going on a date soon





What do we discuss first date? who pays?





Also, do we kiss on the first date? ( I don't want to ';break rules';)








ThanksChinese men%26gt;? Dating tips?
If he's born in the west, he should be very much westernized, then treat him like a westerner.





If he's from the east or has been in the west for a short time, you may need to learn more about the Chinese traditions, not just for the date but for getting along with him.





Suppose he's of the traditional kind of Chinese:





He may wish to pay for the dinner. Most Chinese men pay for all the overheads of dining out unless the couple has a plan to save money for a wedding in which case, they may share the bill.





The topic of discussion can be about things or experience you already share when you first met e.g. something about work, church, friends who introduced you to each other...these are starting points from where you can develop into interesting topics like hobbies, travel stories, cuisines........





As for the kiss, it's difficult to say. If you two desire each other very very much, a kiss on the first date seems natural. But if you two are just interested in each other, a light kiss (just lips, no tongue) may be appropriate. If you are fine with kisses, you can just let him take the lead.





A smart move is to make it just before saying good night. Try rubbing his lapels as if trying to dust something off........he should be able to pick up the hints (that you are fine with a kiss), if not........





Try pulling his lapels lightly as if trying to fix his suit......he should be able to pick up the hints, if not........





Try running your index finger along his chest top-down he should be able to pick up the hints, if not........





Try two fingers, three, four...........if he doesn't get the clue, then forget about him.





I don't think there are rules, just cultural sensitivities. Wishing you a nice and romantic date.Chinese men%26gt;? Dating tips?
The easiest way to do that, I think, It's offer you to pay, if he want to pay, he will insist, and then let him do that...





Try no to talk about politics, you may ask him to talk about him and his roots....





And referring to kisses, you must be charming (seem innocent) and wait to see his reactions...





Good Luck ;)
Chinese people are like white people, so act the same.
couldn't you just be ';upfront?';


I mean, kind of like this........


I am not familiar with your culture, so please forgive me for asking but..............


and then just start a conversation, about..........anything, as long as it is not rude.......


if you want to kiss him......you could say something like...(not even mentioning the fact that he is chinese)... do you ever kiss on the first date...


about paying... ';just offer to pay for your half';


but I would talk about cultural differences if you wanted to... there is nothing wrong with it, and it could prove to be quite informative and interesting as long as it is done with genuine curiosity and with the intent to harm none. we are all just people upon this earth and have alot to offer each other, what's wrong with finding out about diversity in a positive and honestly delightful way.......nothing to be bashful of


if he seems put off by your questions or offended, just drop it, maybe he is not the one if he is too critical of others questions...life should be fun, give and take.......and not so seriously when it doesn't have to be...... there are enough things in life that have to be.


good luck
just be urself. the chinese now are not as traditional as last time.
I don't think any one man, Chinese or not, is the same as the other. I cannot answer your questions because I have never met this man, and therefor don't know what he's like.